Will We Stay Or Will We Go? (A Cape Cod Story)

I’ve written an awful lot of pieces that revolve around Cape Cod, the narrow 65-mile-long stretch of land, and its surrounding waters, in southeastern Massachusetts. Which is fitting. This publication, after all, is a personal narrative more than anything else, and Cape Cod has played a major part in my life for years.

A small section of the enormous dunes in Provincetown, Cape Cod

In 1998 my wife Sandy and I vacationed on the Cape for five or six days, not knowing what to expect. We had researched Cape Cod, of course, and determined that it seemed to be a place that we’d relate to nicely, but the proof would be in the pudding. Well, we had a grand time, and decided that we would return the following year to soak up more of the Cape’s vibes.

Baker’s Pond (Orleans, Cape Cod)

The trip in 1999 sealed the deal. We were, and remain, smitten. For us, much of what Cape Cod has to offer (beautiful sands, waters, marshlands and forests; sweet villages; good eateries, museums, art galleries, music venues, cinemas, theater companies and more) comprise a damn near perfect package. We’ve returned again and again, usually for one vacation annually. We’ve been there in every season but summer, which is when Cape Cod is jammed with vacationers and visitors. F*ck jammed! We’ll stick with autumn, which has been our preference for the last ten or so years. In autumn, jammed doesn’t come into play.

Wellfleet village (Wellfleet, Cape Cod)

As the years went on, the lengths of our visits increased. In total we’ve spent somewhere in the vicinity of nine months on the Cape, a healthy chunk of our life together. Sandy and I think of Cape Cod as our second home. And, overall, we like Cape Cod more than we do our permanent home, which is the Philadelphia suburbs. We’ve thought of moving to our seaside paradise, but nixed the idea for two reasons. First, health care availability is limited on Cape Cod, but bountiful in the Philly region. When it comes to health care, we are fans of bountiful. Second, we don’t know anyone on Cape Cod. We ain’t spring chickens, and trying to create a good social life there would be a bigger challenge than we’re up to.

Marshland (Orleans, Cape Cod)

Friends, Romans and countrymen, it now has taken me about 400 words to get to the reason I am composing this opus. Here it is at last: Though Sandy and I are undecided as to whether we will visit our favorite place in 2020, it’s doubtful we will.

Hot Chocolate Sparrow café (Orleans, Cape Cod)

Why? Because of the pandemic. On Cape Cod we spend an average of eight hours daily away from our cozy rented house, immersing ourselves in various combinations of the environments and venues that I listed a few paragraphs ago. Yes, this fall we’d be able safely to stroll on beaches and pick our way though forests and around marshlands. Not too many people show up in those locales in autumn, and it would be easy to keep our distance from those that do. But it would be risky to enter restaurants, cinemas and all the other indoor places that help to make Cape Cod special for us (and many might be closed anyway, for pandemic reasons, by government mandate). Too much possibility of coming in contact with coronavirus microbes.

Rock Harbor, at Cape Cod Bay (Orleans, Cape Cod)

What it boils down to is this: With greatly limited options on Cape Cod I’d end up spending way more of my waking hours than usual in the rented house. There I’d watch the tube, work on sudoku and crossword puzzles, scratch my balls, and twirl the five strands of hair that remain on the crown of my head. Shit, that’s what I do at home. I don’t need to travel 360 miles to duplicate those activities somewhere else. Even if that somewhere else is the Cape. For similar reasons, Sandy is leaning towards staying home too.

Our kite in action at the Atlantic Ocean (Cahoon Hollow Beach, Wellfleet, Cape Cod)

Oh well. C’est la frigging vie. Maybe we’ll end up on Cape Cod anyway. You never know. For now, I’ll picture myself on the Cape’s sand-cliff-backed Atlantic Ocean coastline. Nobody besides Sandy is in view. I’m scanning the skies, the sands and the cliffs, letting their essences flow into me, and also gazing at the ocean, a powerful, mesmerizing beast. I’ve done exactly that, in reality, many dozens of times. It’s as close to experiencing pure bliss as I’ve ever come.

Chatham Orpheum Theater (Chatham, Cape Cod)

And I’ll imagine the kicks that Sandy and I get from flying our kite at the ocean or at Cape Cod Bay. And the quiet awe that fills us when watching sunsets. And the fun we have while wandering the cozy, quirky streets of Provincetown village. And the thrills that climbing up and down the enormous, otherworldly dunes on Cape Cod’s far end gives to me.

Provincetown village (Provincetown, Cape Cod)

Man, I could go on and on about activities such as these. But that’s enough. I will say this though: Until 1998 (the year in which I turned 51) rolled around, it never had occurred to me that there might be a somewhere with which I’d bond profoundly. I’m a fortunate son of a gun that it happened.

(Please don’t be shy about adding your comments or about sharing this piece. Gracias. All of the photos are from recent years.)

149 thoughts on “Will We Stay Or Will We Go? (A Cape Cod Story)

  1. loristory August 6, 2020 / 12:10 am

    I visited Cape Cod once, in 1968 or so. I have a vivid memory of sliding down a long sand cliff to the beach below. So sorry you have to put your stay there on hold now. Hopefully, things will be much better by this time next year.

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 6, 2020 / 11:11 am

      Hey, Lori. Hopefully a vaccine will be in general use fairly soon, so that countries/economies/life can start getting back to normal. Thanks for stopping by. Much appreciated.

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  2. viewfromoverthehill August 6, 2020 / 12:28 am

    Haven’t been to Cape Cod, but you still had me thinking about some special places I enjoyed away from home. Oh, well, tonight while watching the news, two, (note that: TWO) hummingbirds visited my feeder for the very first time. I’ve seen one at a time often, but this was a first. So, I’m excited even though at home.

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 6, 2020 / 11:14 am

      I love hummingbirds. Amazingly small. I very rarely see any, so it’s special to me when I do. Stay well, Muriel. See ya.

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  3. Audrey Driscoll August 6, 2020 / 2:07 am

    Tofino on the west coast of Vancouver Island is a special place for us, much like Cape Cod is for you. It’s similar but somewhat more rustic. The attractions–sandy beaches, sunsets, forests, eateries–are much the same. We cancelled our visit in March and rescheduled for mid-October. I’m looking forward to it, but at the same time I can understand your hesitation.

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 6, 2020 / 11:17 am

      Hi. I was on Vancouver Island for a couple of days, years ago. Starting at Port Alberni, we took a boat ride down a river to the ocean. That was a great ride.

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      • Audrey Driscoll August 6, 2020 / 7:37 pm

        I’ve done that cruise a couple of times, out to Bamfield. It’s a wonderful part of the planet.

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  4. Paddy Tobin August 6, 2020 / 2:38 am

    You have echoed our situation here. We have visited The Burren, an area of limestone pavement in Co. Clare on the west coast of Ireland, each year for the past ten years. It is a time of long days walking, seeking out wildflowers, photography and we have stayed in the same hotel on each of those years – comfort and good food are essential!

    We haven’t gone there this year – May is our usual time as it best suits the flowers, though September is also excellent – and it is very unlikely (= no chance at all) that we will go this year. We could rent a house but when we spend as long as 8 hours of each day on our feet we have always wished for and appreciated the comfort of a good hotel and having somebody prepare our dinner for us – a little bit of luxury at the end of each long day.

    This won’t happen this year. We continue to remain at home and have been out only for essential reasons – in the five months or so since this virus arrived we have been to shops on only a handful of occasions – groceries are ordered online and delivered! We are beginning to go for walks a little more often – quiet places where we don’t meet people, or very few and it is clear that people are quite nervous even in these open-air situations and take care to put distance between them and us when we meet. We just can’t imagine being at ease in an hotel, restaurant or any such indoors situation so feel it is better to remain at home.

    We can only look forward with hope that this will all pass and that we can get back to our normal lives again.

    Generally, there has been a huge decline in travel abroad for holidays by Irish people and the “staycation” is the choice of the times.

    Best wishes!

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 6, 2020 / 11:22 am

      Afternoon, Paddy. The pandemic is awful. The world needs a vaccine. Without a vaccine, things will get worse and worse. As for the Burren, my wife and I were there in 2006. We stayed in Ballyvaughan

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      • Paddy Tobin August 6, 2020 / 1:31 pm

        We can only hope for a vaccine. Life will certainly not be good until one is found. We have always stayed in Ennis, in the south of the county, but then always go to walk near Ballyvaughan. It’s a beautiful place which we enjoy very much. You must return!

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  5. Platypus Man August 6, 2020 / 2:40 am

    Although we’ve travelled extensively in the US we’ve never made it to Cape Cod. It sounds great, but I don’t suppose we’ll ever get there … Coronavirus has changed our perspective, and I don’t think we’ll feel safe flying long-haul any time soon. We have a favourite place in the UK – the Orkney Islands, off the north coast of Scotland, – and had planned to spend two weeks there this autumn, but cancelled for the same reasons you mention for not going to the Cape. Memories will have to suffice this year, eh?

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 6, 2020 / 11:24 am

      You know, I’ve thought about going to the Orkney Islands. And to the Faroe islands too. Maybe one or both visits will happen some day. Anyway, take care. And thanks for stopping by.

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  6. Lynette d'Arty-Cross August 6, 2020 / 3:00 am

    Yes, this is common, I think. We left the north to come to our home in the south for a break, but we have been circumspect about restaurants and other indoor situations. As Platypus Man said, we won’t be flying long-haul any time soon, either, and the staycation is going to be popular for a while.

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  7. thewonderer86 August 6, 2020 / 3:49 am

    I so understand. It’s really difficult to get a balance between Corona anxiety and living life.

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  8. Sheree August 6, 2020 / 3:50 am

    I sympathise and hope you’ll be able to resume visiting soon.

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 6, 2020 / 11:28 am

      Hi, Sheree. I suppose there’s a slight chance we’ll go to Cape Cod this year, but I very much doubt it. Tourism around the world is suffering like crazy because of the virus.

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      • Sheree August 6, 2020 / 11:45 am

        Indeed, it’s pretty quiet on the Cote d’Azur but we’re making the most of it.

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  9. joylennick August 6, 2020 / 5:38 am

    Hi Neil, Such a shame you won’t get to Cape Cod this year. When we lived in Toronto, Canada briefly, we planned visiting Cape Cod, but – for one reason or another – didn’t make it and then returned to the UK to live. There are so many beautiful places in this wonderful world of ours. A few of our favourites. Lake Garda, Italy (so many gorgeous places in Italy); Salcombe, UK, (South Devon), and Laugharne, Wales (Dylan Thomas, poet lived). Also, what a stunning place is Vancouver Island! As we are now retired to Spain and the Mediterranean sea is less than a mile away, we can hardly complain, even in these precarious times. Both keep safe. Cheers! x

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 6, 2020 / 11:31 am

      Evening, Joy. I’m glad to hear from you. You’re right — so much of our planet is beautiful and worth visiting (or relocating to). Adios till next time!

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  10. tylerus August 6, 2020 / 5:58 am

    I so understand that enchantment with a place. I, too, like Cape Cod, but the place that holds a sweet spot in my heart is Honolulu/Oahu. Will I get there again with everything that’s going on? One can hope. Take care, my friend. Thank you for sharing!

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 6, 2020 / 11:33 am

      Some day in the foreseeable future, you will be in Hawaii! That’s my prediction. Hi, Tyler. Thanks for adding your thoughts.

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  11. Michael Graeme August 6, 2020 / 7:23 am

    Yes, this touched a nerve with me too. Cape Cod sounds a great place, the sort you could easily fall in love with. For me it’s the Yorkshire Dales, just an hour or so’s drive, but I’m sticking it out at home until next year. The place is open for business and I’m being pinged daily by bookings.com urging me to get out there, but like you say, most of what I’d be doing is biding in the rental property doing stuff I could be doing at home.

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 6, 2020 / 11:37 am

      Thanks for the input, Michael. The Yorkshire Dales must be very beautiful. I’ve been to England a few times, but mostly was in London. I’d love to spend time in the English countryside.

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  12. Angela August 6, 2020 / 8:23 am

    My internal compass always points north from where I’m planted in Central Pennsylvania. I love the Cape–I’m a Boston native and used to visit there as a kid and teen. But our domestic trips in the last 20 years have almost always been to NH, VT, ME, and Canada–in most of those places, we’ve visited with family along the way. I am missing those precious visits, the mountains, forests, and seas, more than I can ever describe. All we can do is hope for things to improve.

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 6, 2020 / 11:42 am

      Hi. The places you mention are spectacular. Amazing landscapes and waters. This autumn, zillions of people normally would go there to look at the leaves changing color. Not too many visitors will be showing up for that this year, sadly.

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  13. vprofy August 6, 2020 / 8:27 am

    We have rental house in Orleans second and third week in August. I bailed out in June but my daughter was determined to go with the kids. So rather than a deposit refund we paid up in July. Yesterday she put kayak cradle on her car and loaded up our kayak. There is a travel ban in MA, 14 day quarantine or Covid test just before you get there. She’s planning on testing. We will miss the Cape. Have gone there or Nantucket for 20 years but didn’t want to risk with health conditions. Just hoping it works out for grandkids. Another “different” year on Cape Cod.

    Your bog hit home.

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 6, 2020 / 11:46 am

      Hi there. Good to hear from you. Right, I remember that you are a lover of Cape Cod. My wife and I stay in Orleans too, in the Nauset Heights area. But not this year, most likely.

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  14. Alyson August 6, 2020 / 9:07 am

    I think you’ve made the right call Neil as there is so much uncertainty this year, so you would end up not having the holiday experience you are used to. We are lucky to have large unspoilt beaches here in the North of Scotland so I am blessed. No overnight stays anywhere this summer but a few socially-distanced day trips instead.

    What a year – When we complained about 2016, ‘17, ‘18 and ‘19, we had no idea of what was to come. Our world has become too small for us in many ways but not an easy problem to solve.

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 6, 2020 / 11:47 am

      The only solution is an effective vaccine. Without it, things will only get worse and worse.

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  15. lexklein August 6, 2020 / 9:10 am

    I totally understand both your connection to a place that is not your regular home and your reluctance to risk a visit there this year. 😦 We have all lost so many of our plans for the year; let’s just hope we can eradicate this mess sooner rather than later so that 2021 might be a little bit more normal.

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  16. Helen Devries August 6, 2020 / 10:05 am

    Keep the magic of the place in your hearts…but keep your bodies at home…just stay safe.

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 6, 2020 / 11:51 am

      Hey there, Helen. You know, writing this story sort of brought Cape Cod to life for me. That place really resonates with me. I feel at home and at ease when I’m there.

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  17. Laurie Graves August 6, 2020 / 10:13 am

    So very sorry you won’t be able to go to the place you love! 2020 sure was the year that kicked everyone in the butt. Hope in the end that the year brings some clarity, as the numbers indicate.

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  18. annieasksyou August 6, 2020 / 10:32 am

    Nice nostalgia pix.
    We have been missing our annual week with friends who have a wonderful house on Martha’s Vineyard—overlooking a pond and just a short boat ride to the ocean. They’re up there now with son and his family, who are escaping their small townhome in gritty Washington, DC. I love the entire Cape.

    Damned COVID also forced us to cancel a trip to Alaska in September. We, too, always try to travel in the Fall.

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  19. SandyL August 6, 2020 / 10:43 am

    We had the same thoughts about our annual stay in Vancouver Island. Our concern had mostly to do with the risks in getting there – its a 6 hour flight plus a 45min air-hop. We decided to skip it for 2020. Stay safe Neil.

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 6, 2020 / 11:56 am

      Yeah, airplane flights seem way too risky to me. What a mess everything has become. It’s hard to believe.

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      • SandyL August 6, 2020 / 12:30 pm

        It’s like we’re living in movie, right? Except I’m no Jennifer Lawrence & you’re no Liam Hemsworth … but maybe YOU are 🙂

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  20. talebender August 6, 2020 / 11:02 am

    For similar reasons, we won’t be leaving Canada for our winter home in Florida this year. But if I were you, already living in the U.S., I’d be scratching those five hairs on my head in Cape Cod!
    Jus’ sayin”!

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 6, 2020 / 12:56 pm

      Hi. Well, there’s about a ten percent chance that we’ll go. But being there would be frustrating, because there would be so many things I’d want to do but couldn’t (because of the pandemic).

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  21. JOYCE HAMILTON August 6, 2020 / 11:45 am

    I love all your photos they make me homesick. This is my first year in many years l have bot gone. Sad!

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 6, 2020 / 12:01 pm

      Joyce, it really stinks not being able to visit the Cape. You know as well as I do that it’s a very special area. I feel homesick too.

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  22. Jacqui Murray August 6, 2020 / 12:20 pm

    There’s also the issue of self-isolation. My handy website (I have it pinned open because I’m hoping to visit my sister in Indiana) says Massachusetts requires self-quarantine for 14 days. Some states are exempt but not Pennsylvania (or California for that matter).

    Thankfully, Indiana is still OK.

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  23. Imelda August 6, 2020 / 1:31 pm

    We live close to Cape Cod and have not been there at all. The traffic going there is a big downer for us. So, thanks to your stories and pictures, I get to have a glimpse of it.

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 6, 2020 / 2:11 pm

      There’s usually bad traffic on our long drives to and from CC. But on CC itself, in the off-season, traffic is very mild.

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  24. JT Twissel August 6, 2020 / 2:30 pm

    The last time I attempted to visit the Cape the road was so crowded we ended up turning around. But I do have fond memories of crabbing way back when my grandparents were young (well, probably my age now.) I hope you can get back soon.

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 6, 2020 / 5:01 pm

      Cape Cod is great. But I think it’s best to go there in the off-season. Far fewer people and cars. Hi, JT. Thanks for adding your thoughts.

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  25. eden baylee August 6, 2020 / 2:45 pm

    Cape Cod brings back fond memories for me too. As part of a throuple then, we enjoyed Provincetown in particular. I’d like to go back one day, though admit the US is not on my radar right now.

    Here’s hoping health and wellness before travel resumes en masse.

    eden

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  26. sniderjerry August 6, 2020 / 2:57 pm

    Hey there Neil, I’m sorry you won’t make the trip this year. And I hope this helps, Milton Berle said, “Laughter is an instant vacation.” So thank you for sending all your readers on a instant vacation
    from time to time with some of your stories. Have a great day. Jerry

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 6, 2020 / 7:33 pm

      Evening Jennifer. You know, I’m pretty sure you would love it. A lot of natural beauty, neat old villages, and plenty to do.

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  27. Rhonda August 6, 2020 / 4:59 pm

    Nice post; makes me want to visit Cape Cod someday. I understand how you’re feeling. My husband and I had to forgo a trip to celebrate his 50th birthday and our 30th wedding anniversary to Siesta Key, Fl in March, due to the pandemic. It was such a disappointment. Hope you and Sandy get to Cape Cod next year.

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  28. mariezhuikov August 6, 2020 / 5:17 pm

    Sorry to hear that circumstances are keeping you from a place that you love. Us, too. We don’t plan on any travels to civilized places until there’s a vaccine. I once spent some time at the Audubon Center in Wellfleet. Cool place!

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 6, 2020 / 7:29 pm

      Howdy, Marie. Did you work at Audubon, or visit? It’s a beautiful place. Now you’ve got me wishing I was in Wellfleet right now. I love Wellfleet.

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  29. Brockelman August 6, 2020 / 5:28 pm

    What a wonderful story, Neil. Jacob and I have been lamenting our lack of travel to favorite places this year. We love spending quiet Christmases in our favorite suite at the Willard Hotel in D.C., but that won’t be happening this year. It wouldn’t be the same with Christmas carolers (and us) wearing masks.

    I love your line: When it comes to health care, we are fans of bountiful. That sings to me. Cheers, and be well.

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 6, 2020 / 7:26 pm

      Good evening, and thanks. This has been an unnerving, worrisome and disorienting year. And a dangerous one, with so many people succumbing to the virus. A vaccine can’t arrive soon enough.

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      • Brockelman August 6, 2020 / 7:31 pm

        Me being, I guess, about a decade older than you, I’m worried and not optimistic on the vaccine front. I hope I’m wrong. Anyhow, thanks for your writings. I enjoy them greatly.

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  30. tanjabrittonwriter August 6, 2020 / 7:26 pm

    I think you just made clear why you should go:”I’m scanning the skies, the sands and the cliffs, letting their essences flow into me, and also gazing at the ocean, a powerful, mesmerizing beast.”

    Who cares about restaurants and cinemas when you can gaze at the ocean and/or fly your kite? Take some extra books and spend additional time in that beautiful sand.

    That’s just my humble opinion, but you have to know, of course. 😊

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 6, 2020 / 8:03 pm

      Yeah, but I’d be very frustrated if I couldn’t do restaurants, cinemas, art galleries, etc. Those places are a big part of the Cape Cod experience for me.

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      • tanjabrittonwriter August 6, 2020 / 10:42 pm

        It’s of course your vacation, Neil, and your preferences. When I read your descriptions about the beach and ocean and kites, I was convinced. 🙂
        I hope you can live with whatever decision you and Sandy make.
        Best wishes,
        Tanja

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  31. lookingforthehigherself August 6, 2020 / 8:02 pm

    Lovely post on Cape Cod, I’ve never been there (haven’t explored much of the USA in general) and didn’t realise there were sand dunes, marshes and forests… that in combination to an urban vibe must be so lovely and no wonder you and Sandy are attached to it! Good call though on resisting this year… hopefully by autumn next year you can plan an even longer and nicer stay there 🙏🏼

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 6, 2020 / 10:07 pm

      Thanks for stopping by. Yeah, if it’s safe to travel next year, and if doing normal things is back on the agenda, the world will breathe a huge sigh of relief.

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  32. Ann Coleman August 6, 2020 / 10:15 pm

    Cape Cod sounds like a wonderful place, and I hope to visit it someday. But yeah, I understand why you’re giving it a miss. Vacations during pandemics aren’t exactly fun…

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  33. Becky Ross Michael August 6, 2020 / 11:04 pm

    Such a shame to miss out on your stay this year! I love Door County WI in a similar way. Now I live many states away from there and probably will never return. I have pleasant memories, but it’s sure not the same as being there!

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      • Becky Ross Michael August 7, 2020 / 9:11 am

        It’s beautiful, Neil…cute little towns with antique stores, wineries, great restaurants, Washington Island, parks, and beaches, set on a peninsula between Green Bay and Lake Michigan.

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  34. Elizabeth M. Soltan August 7, 2020 / 9:05 am

    Your lament struck a chord with me,—but I can only second your sense that you’ve been lucky to find “your” place. Your photos make clear the power the beauty of Cape Cod.

    A poet said, something to the effect, “God gave us memories so we could have flowers in December.” Hold on to those memories…and smell the roses, even in muggy Philadelphia.

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 7, 2020 / 10:53 am

      Hi Liz. Right, most people, I think, will be sticking close to home till a vaccine is developed. We do what we have to do.

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  35. snakesinthegrass2014 August 7, 2020 / 11:49 am

    Great post. The one thing that resonated is how hard it is to create a new social life in a new town. That’s been our experience (we transplanted to northern Florida), and while I have no regrets, I can vouch that it is a challenge. Healthcare options are, of course, the most important consideration. But your hesitation about building new contacts is well warranted.

    Cape Cod is on my bucket list of places to visit. Great photos. – Marty

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 7, 2020 / 2:12 pm

      Afternoon, Marty. Yeah, as much as we like Cape Cod, moving there permanently is pretty much out of the question. Visiting there each year, and going on other trips too, is a better idea for me and my wife. See ya!

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  36. Catwoods August 7, 2020 / 12:19 pm

    I enjoyed the photos! I can certainly understand how hard it is to stay away, but I think it’s for the best right now. The high point of our year is always the arts festival in October. It’s been canceled this year. Sad, but I think it was a wise decision.

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  37. andrewcferguson August 7, 2020 / 1:14 pm

    Hi Neil, I’m tempted to say go with the 10% and go, but totally understand why you’re 90% not going. We went to Edinburgh – as you know, one of our favourite places – the weekend before lockdown, and found a lot of the things that make it special to us had closed already. We have a flight from Porto to Edinburgh booked in October, but we’re still vacillating about the outward flight – original plan had been to go to Spain and then get a bus across the mountains, but that’s looking mighty chancy now.

    I guess it’s down to how much of your enjoyment comes from giving the hairs on your head some sea air, and how much is the things you won’t be able to do. Stay safe in any event. The world needs many, many more blog posts from you fella.

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 7, 2020 / 2:16 pm

      Hey there. By not going to Spain, you’d be just as disappointed as I’d be by not going to CC. Next year for Spain and CC, hopefully!

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  38. cincinnatibabyhead August 7, 2020 / 5:54 pm

    Tough call fella. I think you need to do some more scratching and twirling on that one. I dont give advice so I want start now. I’m sure you could still do most of those activities safely and with a piece of mind. CB over and out.

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  39. alhenry August 7, 2020 / 11:41 pm

    I share your angst/sadness/uncertainty, Neil. Ed and I go to London every year. As I told him when we met, London is the home of my heart, and I got to get home as often as feasible. That has become an annual trip for the month of September, but not this year. We have not yet cancelled our two weeks in February in Barbados–a new tradition of four years standing–though we probably will have to. I think it was Barbara Boxer on MSNBC this week who said “They’re stealing our lives” (referring to the terrible mess TheRUMP has made of the whole COVID disaster). For us, these trips are the thing we forego much else for. It’s the thing we most love to spend our time and limited resources on. When you get to a certain age, it’s hard not to think “How many more of these trips do we really have?” Which makes the loss of even one a bitter pill. Stay well.

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 8, 2020 / 8:54 am

      Everything you said rings true with me. It’s incredible to me that I’m as old as I am. And the older anyone becomes, the shorter amount of time there is left. That’s life, of course, but it’s a sobering thought.

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  40. endardoo August 8, 2020 / 7:12 am

    I’ve only ever experienced Cape Cod in movies, Neil, and it has always intrigued me … I can see how it would get into your soul … it really is awful the pandemic makes you hesitate, but it has also served to make you appreciate the great beauties of CC even more

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 8, 2020 / 8:57 am

      Hi. It really is a great place. Natural beauty in many areas. Plenty to do, in a low-key way, even in the off-season. Thanks for dropping by. Enjoy the weekend.

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  41. Ken Dowell August 8, 2020 / 8:13 am

    I think you should put your mask on, get a box of disposable gloves and a big container of disinfectant wipes and head on up there. Even if you end up hanging out in the rented home a lot of the time, the change of scenery is good. You can stay away from the crowds, the public toilets and even the cute little eateries and still appreciate it.

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 8, 2020 / 10:28 am

      Hi Ken, and thanks. We’re still thinking about it. There’s a chance we’ll go, though not a big chance.

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  42. Fictionophile August 8, 2020 / 11:06 am

    Neil, your love of Cape Cod is palpable in this post. It is SO sad and truly regretful that the pandemic has changed all of our views, habits, actions and plans. Not to mention the more dire health implications and livelihoods of so many were lost.
    My husband and I are finally at the stage of life where we have the time and funds to travel, yet we dare not for health reasons. Ironic…
    One of the places that is dear to my heart is the Outer Banks. Yet… you couldn’t entice me to go back there if you paid for my trip and accommodation. Not happening.

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 8, 2020 / 12:49 pm

      I know what you mean. The state of the world is real, real bad. And it happened almost overnight. I’m fairly confident that by a year from now we will have been vaccinated and able to resume our lives pretty normally.

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  43. selizabryangmailcom August 8, 2020 / 7:47 pm

    Good decision. Better safe than sorry.

    Then next year (hopefully!!!) you’ll have a long-awaited, romantic reunion with this magical-sounding place which I hope to visit at least once before I die.

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 8, 2020 / 10:23 pm

      Hi. You’ll love Cape Cod if you go there. I’m slightly in a daze right now. A little while ago my wife and I watched the final episode of season three of Ozark. The ending was a total stunner. Take care. See ya!

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  44. selizabryangmailcom August 9, 2020 / 1:20 am

    Never heard of Ozark! Where have I been?! Gotta look it up now……
    Take care!

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  45. George August 9, 2020 / 2:48 am

    So sorry that you’re likely to miss out on Cape Cod this year, not least because I’ll miss out on it vicariously through reading your resulting post. I’ll have to settle for vicariously enjoying you enjoying Cape Cod vicariously.

    Hopefully by autumn 2021, we’ll have a vaccine and some semblance of normality, and Cape Cod will seem all the sweeter for the absence.

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    • Yeah, Another Blogger August 9, 2020 / 10:32 am

      Afternoon, George. Thanks for adding your thoughts. I agree with what you say in your final paragraph. What is the extent of restrictions in your part of the UK?

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      • George August 9, 2020 / 10:49 am

        They were easing off, but perhaps too soon. Now some areas near us are going back into lockdown. The situation seems to be changing daily and the advice seems contradictory and confusing.

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  46. D. Wallace Peach August 9, 2020 / 1:54 pm

    I grew up in NE and have so many great memories of the Cape, including getting so much sand in my ears that I had to go to the doctor to get it out! Lol. I’m sorry you won’t be getting there this year, but it makes sense. You can social distance on the beach, but the rest gets tricky. Hopefully, next year we’ll all be safe to travel again. 🙂

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  47. ckennedy August 9, 2020 / 4:09 pm

    Yep–there are places we want to visit too, but because of Covid, there just wouldn’t be that much to do once we got there, and we don’t want to take too many risks. So, we’ll save up our money and dream about next year maybe. Cheers!

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  48. Silver Screenings August 9, 2020 / 9:49 pm

    I hope you’ll be able to go anyway. Maybe all the Covid business will disappear by September! (Ha ha.)

    I visited Cape Cod once and thought it was beautiful. I can see why you and your wife visit often. Your writings about this wonderful place always bring back pleasant memories. 🙂

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